Clear Confident Leader Weekly Observer, Issue #60
From the Rincon, Ventura, CA, Warmth of Sunrise
For the moment, what we attend to is reality.
– William James
Each of us chooses, by our ways of attending to things, the universe we inhabit and the people we encounter…The reality that appears to us is not so much what’s out there as it is those aspects of the world we have focused on.
– B. Alan Wallace
The time and space between Christmas and New Year’s Day is for me a wonderful time for family and reflection. As I reflect on events of the past month, I’m increasingly aware that what I focus on is what I perceive.
I spent a lot of energy focused on the Santa Paula fire where my parents and much of my family lives. Being here, it is a common topic of conversation. The conversations lead to a story in my mind full of interpretations that shape my perspective. It seems more raw and real as I personally connect to places where I grew up and see and hear what my family has experienced. It is possible to spiral in on the anxieties and fears that arise.
Yet, when I step back from the story, I can take a different perspective. Here, as in many places of the world this year, a tragic event occurred. People responded as best they knew how, to deal with a dramatically new reality, and are now taking steps to rebuild and move forward in their lives.
Trusting in others, and compassionately caring for those in need, has in many ways strengthened our family and the communities we live in. We’ve reconnected with what we care about and what we share together.
We each have an opportunity to choose what we focus on in each moment. I find it helpful to consider:
- What do I care about in this situation?
- What outcomes would I like to see?
- What is my intention as I engage with those around me?
I work with teams and leaders to create better results through the conscious practice of leadership cultivating resilient effectiveness and compassionate action. Let’s create a better future today!